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Miss Parmelee

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by joe angelelli
Posted on Fri Aug 11, 2006 at 04:28:16 AM EST

Some folks have asked me to share the audio clip with photos that I played during my plenary talk. It's a large file, so I decided to post it on the Exchange using YouTube.

For those who weren't at the conference to hear my introduction, here's some background:

I visited with Miss Elizabeth Parmelee in a Providence nursing home on most Sundays for nearly four years. She was among the first three women to earn a masters in education from Harvard (in 1930). She was a pioneer in the team-teaching movement in the '50s and '60s. She retired the same year I was born (1969). Historian David McCullough told more of her story in his commencement address at Wheaton College in 2002 (Miss Parmelee was there attending her 75th college reunion).

During my visits with Miss Parmelee we would often talk about "the dream" -- culture change in long-term care. On this visit I read to her from her father's old quote book, beginning with this one from Edwin Markham:

Ah, great it is to believe the dream as we stand in youth by the starry stream; but a greater thing is to fight life through and say at the end, the dream is true!

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The wisdom of Mrs. Parmelee (4.00 / 1)

I find myself reflecting on so much of Mrs. Parmelee's message.  

Mrs. Parmelee offers us a great gift as we approach our very, very hard work.  The dream is right.  As long as the dream is right, we will find a way through it, we will learn from the snags, but we won't let them cloud our vision of the dream.

Personally, I have a dream of a society where Interdependence is a reality.  A place where all people-including elders and individuals living with disabilities--are in active reciprocal relationships.  I have a dream that the Culture Change movement will grow to the point where there are more organizations with households than without, that there are more communities offering elder co-housing than not, and where more of us look forward to our aging experience than not.

We are off to a very good start--I am so proud of what the Pioneer Network and others involved in the culture change movement have accomplished in nine short years.  

But as Mrs. Parmelee says, we are going to hit some snags and we can't let them stop us.  It is time, I think, for us to start dealing with some of those "snags" head on.

One small example: If we have built a household, but the people who work in that household don't earn enough to have their own household outside of work, then what have we accomplished?  Not nearly enough.
It is time for us to tackle policy issues such as wages and benefits head on.  This won't be easy, it's bigger than any one employer, but it's right--and in my opinion the dream can't be accomplished otherwise.

There are many hard issues--issues that involve pulic policy--that are going to have be tackled to really change this system.  And the time to get going on this is now.  The Paraprofessional Healthcare Institute has a team that works actively on policy, and has started a healthcare for healthcare workers campaign as many direct care workers--particularly those in home health--have no health insurance.  I hope the Pioneer Network and each of us individually will start pushing harder on the snags that lie under the surface of our change efforts.

So, thank you Mrs. Parmelee.  Thank you for a moment of beauty--a moment where I am reminded that the dream is right, the dream is important, and hard isn't what matters.  

And a special thanks to Joe Angelelli, not only for sharing your message at the conference, but for posting this so we can listen to it over and over again!


by Sue Misiorski on Fri Aug 11, 2006 at 12:26:10 PM EST
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